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We all know someone who gets offended when a man opens a door for her. You might even be one of those people. Women often get offended when a man opens a door for them in a public location because they see it as a symbol of the days when women physically needed men to open doors for them because corsets and hoop skirts challenged their mobility, making them effectively handicapped. When a fellow opens a door for us nowadays, we may see it as an insult; that men are viewing us as fragile, inferior to men, and incapable of opening doors ourselves. This everyday trivial act of revived chivalry is transformed into the ultimate disregard for female equality. Chivalry turns to sexism. The big question is, was the feminist movement what killed men's politeness towards women because women pushed all the door opening away, or is the decline of etiquette and chivalry merely because men are no longer being raised to act like gentlemen anymore? Tell me your thoughts!
I wouldn't say that chivalry is dead, but the feminist movement, in some ways, is not helping this. The feminist movement, at first glance, is along the lines of "GIRLS ARE SUPERIOR WOMEN ARE GREATEST, AND MEN ARE MONSTERS AND HAVE TO BE STOPPED." When in reality, feminism is about equality for BOTH men and women. Personally, when a guy does something nice for me (opening a door, etc.), I just let him. I was raised to let guys do things for me, but knowing that I can do things on my own, too. Except if the person is being rude, I consider this as okay. Disregarding female equality is not okay, but if it is as innocent as opening a door, I do not see anything wrong with it.
ReplyDeleteI'd say chivalry is dead to some extent but those girls who just get mad because of a guy opening the door for them they need to take a chill pill sit their butts down. In some sense Feminism's meaning has been changed to "let's take over men". we've all seen this. so I say a misogynist movement is in order. just to balance things out again. of course that's just me.
ReplyDeleteThis reminds me of Pride and Prejudice! I love that time period and the chivalry that was always shown not just to ladies but to men as well. Before people would leave or entire a room everyone would bow graciously, there was no "grinding" at dances but subtle touching of hands and cheeks. I was obviously born in the wrong era.
ReplyDeleteI, personally, think its very kind and respectable for men to open doors for women. I don;t see it as an insult at all. I feel like people who do see it as insulting are just over thinking it.
ReplyDeleteI love when men open doors for me. I see it as extremely respectful and a sign that they were raised right. Unfortunately, I do think some men treat women as if we are inferior to them, which I do not tolerate. BUT, holding the door is a simple common courtesy men and women should do.
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